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How to Get Over a Bad Breakup Fast

He was a real jerk most of the time. He was moody, unpredictable with his affection and often absent when you needed him most.

So you kicked his emotionally unavailable butt out the door last week. “Good riddance!” Deep down in your heart-of-hearts, you knew he wasn’t the one for you.

So why one week later do you still have a broken heart and on the verge of calling him to come back?

Even though you may have broken up with him, have you broken your energetic cords with him? If not, you are likely going to have a tough time getting over the breakup quickly and cleanly.

Don’t panic. There are some simple things you can do to speed your healing process along and I’ll show you how to cut your cords later in this article.

First and foremost, take some “me” time. Give yourself a moment to be sad, mad or disappointed that the relationship didn’t work out the way you wanted. Honor those emotions. But don’t get stuck in the energetic “goo” breakups often leave behind.

Every time you start to feel sad or lonely, distract yourself with something you love doing. (NOT eating a pint of ice cream!) Take a bubble bath… or better yet, take a salt bath. Salt is well known for breaking up stale energy and removing it from your aura. You can use Himalayan pink salt, but any good table salt (cheaper) will do the job. You can add some Epsom salt to the water, but you want it to be mostly salt in order to cleanse your aura properly. Use a minimum of 26 ounces of salt. Yup, the whole container! Soak for 15 minutes and then shower off. You will feel amazing and the salt will breakup all that all stale emotion and wash it away.

Next, remove any of his belongings left behind. Remember, this isn’t an excuse to call and meet him for the exchange. This is clearing anything that has his energetic signature on it from your home. If he hasn’t called to retrieve it in more than a week, it wasn’t that valuable to him. Give it away or toss it.

Do a physical cleanup. Get rid of any clutter or mess he might have left. Change the bed! Clean the bathroom. Toss out any of his foods in the cabinet.

Now, smudge your house. Using white sage or another clearing incense will do wonders to clear away any of the remaining energy from the breakup.

And finally, this is the most powerful thing you can do to get over the breakup fast — cut your energetic cords with him. There are many ways to cut your cords. Here is a simple one.

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Get yourself calm. Say a prayer if you like. Give thanks for all the good things in your life. Honor the relationship even if it wasn’t a good match for you long-term. You can still honor him as a fellow human being.

Once you are calm, in your mind’s eye, see a cord(s) between you and he. Keeping your eyes closed, take your right hand and make some imaginary scissors with your fingers. Make a cutting motion and snip those cords. There may be several and they may be thick, so be sure you cut them all completely.

See the cords evaporate like a puff of smoke once they are cut. Repeat anytime the relationship comes to mind or you are tempted to call him.

So now you know how to get over a bad breakup fast. Clear all that old stale relationship energy and you will be ready for that perfect love to show up in your life.

Written by, Susan K. Edwards, a Licensed Spiritual Healer Life Coach, author and owner of Wildhair Studios’ Rock Shop. Her book, Smudging: Clear Negative Energy From Your Home & Life is available on Amazon. Shop here for sage, smudge kits and other clearing products. Explore or contact her for more information or public speaking.

This story has been previously published at, and several other sites, including my personal blog.

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